Lately I’ve been working with a lot of people who struggle to get motivated.
I mean, there’s a whole lot of stuff not getting done out there.
People stall on taxes, drag out launching the new business, don't write that book.
There’s de-cluttering not happening, exercise not happening, homework not done.
Just leaving the house for chores or a walk is a big deal for some.
And forget about phone calls- so much stalling instead of calling.
I’ve yet to meet anyone who doesn’t stall about something.
So as you think about the things you are not getting done, see if you can notice the fear involved.
With taxes the fear is easy to spot, isn’t it? It could be fear about not being “good”, and punishment.
Just not knowing how is scary too.
Or maybe the task seems to mean something about you. The inner voice might say something like, “Who do you think you are? You're so full of yourself to think you have what it takes to write a book, or start a business.”
It might mean you are out of your depth, not smart enough, in over your head with something you’re not good enough to accomplish.
And of course, other people could think something about you that you don’t like.
Yeah. Better just sit there.
And you might also notice all the struggle for control- control of what you do, what you think, how you do it.
But do you actually have that control?
Do your attempts to boss yourself around succeed in getting you off the couch?
You're still sitting there, aren't you?
Maybe you’re not in charge of this. Maybe whether you act or not is not up to you.
What if it’s not your fault or doing that you can’t get things done? What if it’s a happening that’s out of your hands?
I know that might seem crazy to the inner voice that says, “Well I have to be in control! Otherwise Nothing Will Get Done!”
But it’s not getting done already, right? Even with the inner voice yelling at you nonstop.
That voice simply hasn’t noticed it has no power.
So what would it feel like if you could see that you’re a passenger, not the driver?
What if non-doing is not your doing?
What if it's not your fault?
Well, then, maybe then you can give yourself a break.
And shockingly, relaxing responsibility you don’t really have anyway, might just relax all that fear of not knowing how.
Because it's terrifying to think you're supposed to know how to be boss of something you’re not actually boss of.
So maybe that relaxing is just enough to open the door to peace.
And then things might just begin to get done. Without you.
Wouldn’t that be something?